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The Fear of Insignificance | My Life As A THREE

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In his book The Sacred Enneagram, Chris Heuertz explains it this way:
Their quietly competitive nature is rooted in their inner drive to prove to themselves that they are valuable. This inner drive is perpetuated by the Basic Fear of the Three, that somehow they are hopelessly worthless and characteristically base. Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile frame it this way in The Road Back to You:
Once in a blue moon when Threes slow down long enough to reflect on their lives, they might feel like they're a fraud. I wear a thousand masks, but which is the authentic me? When this flash of insight comes to them it surfaces a Three's worst fear: What if there's no one behind the image? What if I'm no more than an empty suit? The Basic Need for Threes is success, whatever that looks like to us. You would think that would make failure the corresponding Fear of the Three. And while we Threes try to avoid *public* failure at all costs, I'm not really that afraid of failure. If I try…