The Enneagram Type TWO is commonly known as the Helper. Twos have a need to be needed. Hospitality is their jam. They are always ready to play host or hostess at a moment's notice. There's always more room at the table with Twos.
Twos are, outwardly, very others-focused. Helpers tend to focus on the emotions and needs of the other people in their lives, often to the neglect of their own needs. Helpers are always wanting to make sure others are taken care of and can be hesitant to make their own needs and desires known. I emphasize the outwardness of their actions because Twos (like many numbers) live in a place of tension between their outward actions and their inward motivations.
Twos will help clear the table and wash the dishes at a friend's house after the dinner party without being asked. But Twos, especially unhealthy Twos, can be resentful that no one else offered to join in. Twos are in that weird space of appearing humble but acting out of a sense of pride. They …
Do you have that friend who's just a bit different? They're the ones with the unique hair styles, kinda "out there" clothing choices, who listen to bands you've never heard of. They are outside-the-box thinkers. They don't like to be labeled or categorized.
In fact, if they think "I'm not any of the Enneagram numbers. I'm my own number!" then they're most likely a FOUR.
Maybe this describes you or someone you know. Fours, often called the Individualist, are, in fact, different. According to some experts, there are probably fewer Fours than any other number. Fours fear being "normal" or just like everyone else, but they also deeply desire to belong and feel accepted. That's the tension of Fours. They want to be accepted as part of the group while maintaining their own individual identity.
This all leads to the vice of Fours: envy. They see the life everyone else has - their perfect and pretty Instagram lives - and they want…
According to some Enneagram teachers, there are probably more Sixes than any other Type. The world needs Sixes, also called Loyalists, to ensure that the community is preserved and that we're prepared when disaster strikes.
Trust is a big issue for Sixes. If you have earned their trust - as a leader, friend, or spouse - then they will be with you through thick and thin. They won't jump ship. But Sixes can also be some of the more skeptical people in your life. Often Sixes find themselves playing "Devil's Advocate" - asking probing or even accusatory questions. They aren't purposefully trying to be obnoxious or derail the whole system. They just want to know that those in charge have everything under control and have planned for anything that can and will go wrong.
Sixes are worst-case-scenario thinkers. They live in the world of "mights", "coulds", and hypotheticals. If there ever is a real disaster or problem, you want a Six around becau…