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Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. (1 Timothy 4:12)

I have a confession to make.

I get really defensive when I hear people complain about the younger generations.

I am a thirty-year-old youth minister. I am a Millennial who is ministering to Generation Z - you know, the tide-pod addicts who are always marching on Washington and stuff.

But I will also be the first to admit that getting defensive about any one particular generation is only going to drive yet another wedge into a massively divided culture. Each generation should be willing to hear and reflect on the criticisms of others.

No generation is inherently better than another. As we saw in my first post in this series, the older generations have been complaining about younger people since the beginning of history. No surprises here.

I guess the surprising thing for me is that we are STILL ha…

WE ARE YOUNG, part 2

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. (1 Timothy 4:12)
I have a confession to make.

I am part of a nation-wide group whose sole purpose in life is to dismantle the beloved American way. We are called out on news networks across the country as cold-blooded killers. Our thirst for violence knows no end. No company is safe. No store is in the clear. We will gladly watch them all die a slow and painful death.

No, I'm not talking about any terrorist organization.

I'm talking about....Millennials.

Come on, surely you've seen the headlines!
Drat! Our dastardly plan has been foiled. Our whole plot undone. And we would have gotten away with it, too, if it weren't for those meddling....adults.

BETTER TOGETHER | Mythbusters: Relationship Edition

When it comes to dating, marriage, and relationship advice, a lot of it is....terrible. There are things people say simply because they've heard other people say it. This is because of a certain cognitive bias. The more people hear a thing repeated, the more likely they are to assume it's true - even if it's false.

Let me give you some examples of bad relationship advice I've heard and continue to hear for some reason.

WE ARE YOUNG, part 1

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. (1 Timothy 4:12)
I have a confession to make.

I'm not quite sure how to say it, so I'll just come right out with it. I am.... a Millennial.

No, no, no. I'm not THAT skinny-jeans-wearing, avocado-toast-eating, living-at-home, working-at-a-start-up kind of Millennial. But those are all grossly overemphasized stereotypes, anyway. In fact, anytime you see a headline or a study claiming anything about "Millennials," realize that we are the largest generation numerically since the Baby Boomers.
You shouldn't make broad, sweeping statements about Millennials and then turn around and complain about how we are all unique, special snowflakes. It doesn't work that way.

And BTW, we never ASKED for participation trophies.

And also BTW, studies show that older generations are on their smartp…

BETTER TOGETHER | Learning Languages

This is the third installment in our BETTER TOGETHER series. On Wednesday nights I am walking the teenagers through the process of seeing their relationships through a biblical lens. Once we start seeing all our interactions through God's will, then we are better prepared to make those relationships AWESOME.

So far we've looked at the fact that we were all created for community and togetherness. But a little thing called sin entered the world and brought separation where there was once intimacy. The remedy for the disease of sin and separation is LOVE. And we introduced the four levels of love: 1) I love me for my own benefit. 2) I love you for my benefit. 3) I love you for your benefit. 4) I love me for your benefit. When Jesus tells us to "Love your neighbor as yourself," there is an implied love for self. We must practice some form of self-love and self-care in order to benefit others.

Second, we learned the difference …

LISTEN UP: My Top Albums

I don't think there is any doubt that the music industry is changing - and has been for a while. In my lifetime we have gone from cassette tapes to CDs to mp3 players to smart phones to online streaming services. The way we listen to our music has all but killed the "ALBUM" as an art form. Everything seems to be driven by singles, playlists, and YouTube views.

And that's a shame.
Artists/Bands put effort into crafting entire albums full of music. Take some time to listen to an full album this week. It will definitely give you more insight into who they are as an artist/band.
Here is a list of 10ish albums that have stuck with me over the years. They aren't necessarily the BEST music albums (no Grammy winners). But these are the albums I find myself able to listen to over and over again. They have, in one way or another, shaped who I am today and helped form my musical taste over the course of three decades.

BETTER TOGETHER | First Responder

Do you ever wonder what you would do if you were placed in certain situations? Like, what would you do if you were stranded on a deserted island? Or what if you were in a plane crash? Or what if an older, quirky, English chap invited you to come with him into his small, blue police call box?
It's interesting to imagine and day dream about those scenarios. But what about some real life situations?
What would you do if....
During announcements, the person sitting behind you punches you in the back. You try to tell the teacher, but he only says to be quiet during announcements.
You’re excited about a friend’s upcoming birthday party, but then she says you aren’t invited. Her parents said she can only invite four people, and you aren’t one of them.
You’re playing a video game when your mom gets home from work. She turns off the console and tells you to get going on homework—even though you don’t have any. All your progress in the game is lost.
A teacher accuses you of cheating after you …

BETTER TOGETHER | Created for Community

I want to ask you some questions. Really process through these. What do you think?

Why do you have friends?

Why do people want to have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Why do people get married?

Why do people start families?

Why do we hate being lonely?

At our core level, human beings crave connection. From the beginning of time we have been forming bonds, building family groups, combining family groups into small communities, and growing those communities into villages, towns, cities, nations, and empires.

We all desire contact and relationships with other humans. In fact this is more than a desire. This is a NEED. According to this Psychology Today article, "babies who are not held and nuzzled and hugged enough will literally stop growing and-if the situation lasts long enough, even if they are receiving proper nutrition-die." Lack of touch can be detrimental to the health and development of children. This impact can be seen in overcrowded orphanages around this world.

The answer …